Whether you’re submissive or dominant, the world of BDSM toys and bondage gear can be incredibly exciting and stimulating for all the senses.
Here we dive into the world of basic bondage sex toys and BDSM accessories, giving you a broad overview of the most common kink gear you’re likely to come across. Let’s go!
BDSM Restraints
Bondage and BDSM restraints are probably the most likely form of kinky play that most people in the bedroom have tried. Tying your partner to your bed frame with a couple of ties or DIY chains is easy enough to do on a whim, and films/books like Fifty Shades Of Grey popularized this sort of basic restraint play, even if it was an objectively awful movie. BDSM restraints come in all shapes and sizes, but here are some of the most popular forms.
Bondage Rope
Ah, the bondage rope. Bondage ropes are so versatile and fun, whether you’re tying someone to a bed or tying their body up into a submissive position while they wait to be fucked. Bondage ropes can be combined with numerous types of vanilla and extreme BDSM play, reducing the freedom of movement that your partner has while you decide what you’re going to do to them! There are multiple types of knot you can use with bondage ropes, so it’s useful to learn at least a couple of them.
Spreader Bars & Yokes
Spreader bars and yokes are designed to spread your sub out in one way or another. Arm-spreading bars are probably the most common, forcing your sub to have their arms spread out aloft their head, leaving their torso and genitals vulnerable to your touch. You can also commonly find leg-spreading bars which force your bitch’s legs open, leaving their pussy or ass totally helpless. There seems to be a spreading bar for every position you can think of, so look around!
Collars
A collar is the ultimate symbol that someone is your little bitch – you own them. They’re great for pup play and dom/sub power exchanges. Dragging your bitch around by the collar really shows them who’s boss in your relationship and makes them feel worthless and degraded – they are at your command. BDSM collars come in various shapes, styles, and materials, including both leather and vegan options. Some even come with ball gags attached, depriving your bitch of the ability to yap.
Gags
Gags are a turn on for many subs and doms, as well as those into more extreme pup roleplay. Gags come in various shapes, sizes, and materials, some of which are more suitable for experienced subs as opposed to newbies. If you’re new to gags, remember that many of them are hard and force your jaw open uncomfortably for extended periods of time.
If you’re looking to try gags for the first time, you should aim for a gag which is made from pliable material (such as soft silicone) and consider gags which have holes in, allowing you to breathe from both your nose and mouth while gagged and bound.
Pleasure Tape
Pleasure tape (i.e. bondage tape) is specially designed so that it only sticks to itself. This means that when you wrap it around your partner’s body a few times, it will create a strong bond without directly sticking to their skin and hurting them. Have you ever tried to peel duct tape off of your skin after a few hours of BDSM torture? It’s agony. Stick to the professional bondage tape and do yourself a favor – it’s not worth the few bucks you save.
Cuffs
If you’ve ever been arrested (not that I have), you’ll know how frustrating handcuffs can be – they limit your movement and make your totally subservient to whoever happens to have the key to unlock you. The cuffs from adult stores take this one step further, leaving a sub at the mercy of their dom.
You can use cuffs to attach a sub to themselves, their dom, or various pieces of BDSM furniture, leaving you with endless possibilities for prisoner roleplay, power exchanges, extreme restraints scenes, and more.
Tools For Impact Play
Impact play is another common form of BDSM which most people are familiar with. It involves “impacting” (i.e. hitting) your partner with your hand or some form of BDSM equipment like a paddle, flogger, or whip. Lots of people find this kind of play to be arousing, crossing the lines between pleasure and pain. Many doms like to see the red bruising that their spanking causes on their sub’s ass, for instance, while subs like to feel that they are being punished with physical force.
BDSM Floggers
The great thing about floggers is their versatility. For example, a long leather flogger with multiple long strands can be used for whipping your sub, but it can also be used for sensual sensation play and touching when your bitch is tied up, arousing them as they feel the strands brush over their helpless body. Floggers come in different materials for different purposes, such as rubber, leather, and even steel, so there’s also something to meet your sexual desires. Floggers are a staple kink toy for any S&M sex toy enthusiast out there.
BDSM Whips
BDSM whips are designed to instill fear and inflict pain on your sub, whether you’re using them to lash out at the ground and intimidate them, or actually strike their skin and make them feel pain. As with most S&M sex toys, there are various styles and sizes of whip for you to peruse, whether you’re looking for a bullwhip, a dragon tail whip, or a cat o’ nine tails.
BDSM Paddles
The great thing about paddles is that they distribute the impact more evenly than a whip or a flogger, covering a larger surface area. This means that when you spank your sub’s ass with a paddle repeatedly, you slowly but surely turn their ass red, which can be very arousing for both people in the scene. Some paddles even come with impressions like the world “slut” or “bitch” which will be temporarily marked on the bitch’s skin if you smack them hard enough. Go on, they love it.
Canes
Canes, much like whips, have the ability to strike fear into your sub – the “whoosh” sound of a cane being whipped through the air is enough to get any little bitch excited and fearful of their master. Due to their association with teachers and naughty school kids, canes are popular among couples who enjoy naughty schoolboy/schoolgirl roleplay, as well as other similar scenes. If you really want to show a sub who’s wearing the pants, whip out the cane and watch the fear in their eyes.
Outfits and Fetish Wear
Some people like leather, some people like lace, and some people like latex. We can’t always explain it, but something about fetish wear can be extremely fucking sexy. Perhaps it’s the tight and revealing properties of latex, or maybe a bodysuit with a pussy cutout just pushes your buttons in the right way. Whatever you find to be a turn on, there’s a kinky get-up out there for you.
Catsuits
Catsuits are a staple for any kinky woman, and they’re incredibly popular with fem doms who like to treat their man (or woman) like a little bitch. The skin-tight latex clings tight to every inch of the wearer’s body, simultaneously leaving them revealed yet powerful and in control. Many catsuits come with zips and openings which allow the wearer to expose her pussy, often forcing her slave to perform cunnilingus while she retains all the power in her sexy and demeaning outfit. Make the naked slave feel like dirt on your shoe.
Latex Dresses
Whether you’re going for Betty Page or Marilyn Monroe, a latex dress is the perfect way to accentuate a flattering female figure while still feeling powerful and in control. Latex dresses cling to the skin very tightly, exposing much of the wearer’s body, yet they carry a sense of femininity that can sometimes be lost with catsuits and other BDSM wear. It’s all down to personal preferences at the end of the day, but I think that latex dresses are pretty damn sexy.
Hoods and Masks
Hoods and masks have the potential to add new dimensions to a fetish scene for both the dom and the sub. For example, some subs like their dom’s face to be concealed so that they cannot see who is fucking them. On the other hand, some subs like to wear masks which deprive them of their sight and ability to speak, leaving them totally oblivious to the outside world and at the mercy of the dom. Animal-esque masks are also common, such as pup and bunny masks, allowing the wearer to transform into the submissive little pet of your choice.
Cum-clusion
A lot of people are into BDSM and kinks but they’re too scared or ashamed to admit it, even to their sexual partners.
If you like being tied up, tortured, tickled, teased, or just fucked absolutely senseless, don’t feel ashamed! As long you’re safe, consensual, and having fun, you should be free to explore your sexual fantasies and push your kinks to the absolute max. Have fun out there!